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Girls' Cliques: What Role Does Your Daughter Play?
Rosalind Wiseman? author of Queen Bees and Wannabes ON May 17, 2002 at 10:50AM
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7 Common Roles Girls Play in Cliques
1. The Queen Bee:
Through a combination of charisma, force, money, looks, will and manipulation,
this girl reigns supreme over the other girls and weakens their friendships
with others, thereby strengthening her own power and influence.
2. The Side Kick:
She notices everything about the Queen Bee, because she wants to be her.
She will do everything the Queen Bee says. The Queen Bee, as her best friend,
makes her feel popular and included.
3. The Floater:
She has friends in different groups and can move freely among them.
She has influence over other girls but doesn't use it to make them feel bad.
4. The Torn Bystander:
She's constantly conflicted about doing the right thing and her allegiance to the clique.
As a result, she's the one most likely to be caught in the middle of a conflict between
two girls or two groups of girls.
5. The Pleaser/Wannabe/Messenger:
She will do anything to be in the good graces of the Queen Bee and the Sidekick.
When two powerful girls, or two powerful groups of girls, are in a fight, she is the go-between.
However, the other girls eventually turn on her as well. She'll enthusiastically back them
up no matter what. She can't tell the difference between what she wants and what the group wants.