09/01/03 23:25:03
J-Teacher/friend thinks I love him...
I am currently studying Japanese at college, and every year we have a few Japanese university students come to our school for about 9 months to teach us Japanese.
During class we are very polite, we are supposed to talk in polite speech, but after school we can just use plain form and be informal with each other.
One of these teachers, a j-guy, is really attractive and all, but I am not interested in him in that way. However, he thinks I am in love with him.
Not due to something I did, but because someone he is close to told him so (Too long to explain that right now).
The thing is, I want to be just friends with him, but I feel like he’s kind of avoiding me, keeping conversations short,
thinking that I am only talking to him because I’m in love with him. I’ve known him for about 4 months now, see him almost every day,
and I feel like we’re going nowhere. I want to establish a relationship that lasts longer than just these 9 months,
visit him in Japan if I go there, have fun with him these few months we have left, have normal conversations with him, just randomly start a conversation,
all without him thinking that I’m interested in him. Because it’s really not working right now.
How can I make clear that I’m absolutely not in love with him? Without making a complete fool out of myself of course.
How is the best way to say it to him? My Japanese is not really good yet, but I can have normal conversations and can understand most of it.
His English is really bad. I’m almost never alone with him, there are always people we know around (Girls swarming around him because he’s the cool Japanese guy).
He is hard to reach, and I always seem at loss for words when I talk to him (in Japanese), while I can just talk normally with the other Japanese teachers.
I’m a really shy person, so I’m really afraid to talk to him… What should I do? :
by Anonymous 2009/1/2